Ever since kanu nwankwo married that 18 years old girl that is when ladies should know that marriage is not a decision to be considered when you are close to 30.

Are you a girl in her late teens or early twenties? Well this post is definitely for you, if you are in your late twenties or thirty you can still find solace in this post, you can retrace you step think of where you are getting it wrong and make the needed adjustments.

Mind you this is not a motivational post rather is to let you know few important things that need to be considered before you even start thinking of settling down with anybody.

Before you hit the rock of “LET SOMEONE JUST PROPOSE TO ME I DON’T MIND WHO” statement you have to consider this few points. You may have to get your jotter, diary, paper, pen, pencil or whatever you need for this together.

1.  Age 18,19,20 is not too young to marry

One of the early traps to consider is how young is too young, granted in Africa even if you are past 18 and with your right to vote confirmed you are not still considered an adult, why? Because our parents feel that we can’t handle some certain matters. A typical example is myself, you see my mom will call after I have told her am not coming home tonight to check if I decide to change my mind, like if I change my mind I wouldn’t have call to inform that I am coming back home. You see she knows am hardworking but she still don’t believe I can take care of myself for a month without her help.

Parents should learn to teach their children how to be mature not protect them from maturity itself. Let’s do a simple math here you gave birth to your first child at 20 so when you are 30 he/she should be 10 right? So when you are 50 he/she will be 30. Now consider this you gave birth to your first child at 31 so when you are 50 he/she will be 19 right? Now tell me which did you prefer you at 50 and your child 30 or you at 50 and your child 19? Remember that “this is your first child”.

I will definitely want to see my child mature before my eyes than me been old and my child is still a kid. Now that aside, age is totally different from maturity we can have a fool at 40 but a Solomon at 20 so been older doesn’t confirm wisdom, if you can make a good decision make it while you have the time to make corrections than wait for the eleventh hour when you won’t be able to make corrections at all because of lack of time. So while you are still in you late teens start considering marriage. Don’t look for hookup, don’t date because others have boyfriends, let whoever you want to date know that you want to get married on time so if they are not in the zone let them leave.

Giving you start dating at 19 and you court for two years which to me that time frame is enough to know if he is a joker, player or a player-joker or the real deal.